I wish there weren't any rules for dating, but courtship is a ritual. There are things that we make happen that excite, stimulate, create interest and bewilder the person of interest. Dating is a long test of compatibility. No matter what kind of “front” you put up, with time all will be unravelled and you will find that you have jeopardized your chance of happiness by not displaying the real you.
The issue here is that when women date, there are some things that can help them be more successful in the long term. If we accept that dating is a game, then there are rules to that game. There are winners and losers. If you know the rules in advance, it gives you a head start. If men know the rules by which you are playing, you may change the rules to suit the situation to keep the man guessing. Men love a challenge, so feel free to adapt rules and add them as you feel inclined.
The Rules
*Always look great, whatever your income. Gorgeous hair and some lip gloss and clothing that leaves plenty to the imagination will undoubtedly turn his head. But don’t go overboard with the MAC forcefield and 6 inch stilettos at the grocery store. The point is not to change what you look like drastically, but to put the best “You” forward. You have the advantage. You are the woman. Look your best as you could meet a potential Mr. Right anywhere at any time.
*Never reveal information you don't have to. An enigmatic woman drives men wild and no one likes a chatter box. If he knows your life story by the end of the first date, what incentive does he have to make an effort to learn more about you?
*Keep dates brief, but your men interested. Less is always more.
*Stay in shape and involve yourself in some sort of fitness regime. However much you hate it, your Mr. Right loves your body as much as your mind.
*Let your man pay if he insists but ALWAYS offer. If he is interested, he is interested enough to ensure you eat well and get home safely in a cab.
*Ensure you touch on your love of flowers. Flowers have great energy, and are not a materialistic gift. My parents have been married for 25 years and still to this day, my father comes home almost every week with a bouquet of flowers.
*Never ever sleep with a guy until he has fallen for you aka you are in a monogamous relationship. Sex early in your dating game plan will ruin everything.
*Never turn up early. And it’s okay to be a LITTLE late. It is a lady's prerogative.
*Never PLAY hard to get, BE hard to get. Men aren’t stupid. If you’re calling him in 3 days after he calls you every time, he’s going to figure out your “game” (if you can even call it that) in a heartbeat. What I mean by being hard to get is to be you and act normally. If your brother calls you during a meeting, you don’t excuse yourself to answer, hyperventilate while you “ignore” the call then make a series of phone calls to all your friends informing that he called, so why would you do all that for a guy you are dating? The biggest mistake women make is becoming obsessive with their dates in their minds, so they try and compensate for it by trying to come across uninterested.
*Never MAKE yourself available for a date. What I mean by that is, just because you can cancel your dinner with a friend in order to go on a date being proposed, doesn’t mean you should. Be honest. Let him know what day works for you best, and if he is truly interested, he will make his schedule work with yours. He will run a mile. He is the one doing the chasing.
*Weekend shopping trips with girlfriends are sacred and not available for dates. Just because you enjoy his company, doesn’t mean you have to invite him out to EVERY outing you have planned with friends/coworkers/family. You should have a life without him.
*Ensure you are a good kisser. Men will walk away if you cannot kiss because it is a preview of how you are going to be in bed. Practice on a mirror/friend if you have to.
*Never ever talk about previous boyfriends, particularly their prowess in the bedroom or how successful they were/how much money they made. Your ex-boyfriends are your business only.
*Never assume anything about your date until you choose to know him better. You cannot always tell by looking. Also, take people’s opinions with a grain of salt. Just because you HEAR he is a player from a friend of a friend, doesn’t mean you have the right to prosecute him. Make up your own mind and opinion based on how he treats you.
*If any man shows the slightest signs of possessiveness or insecurity, run like the wind. Life is too short for boys, you want a real MAN.
*If his shoes or hygiene are a disgrace, dump him. You are making the effort to put your best face forward, so should he.
*Never talk too much about your father and how your date measures up in comparison. Nothing makes a man feel more inadequate than hearing that your father treats you like a princess and showers you in diamonds and lavish gifts. That sets a certain level of expectations that only your father can meet hence the reason why your date never called you back.
*If the guy in the corner is gorgeous, go get him and create the need in him for you. Never wait for men to come to you because you may watch him leave with someone else.
*You may be an Alpha female, but don’t ensue the role of the man in the relationship. A man needs to feel as if he is in charge and doing the chasing and have his ego stroked from time to time.
*If you: are a conservative/democrat, want a child/raise your children with a certain religion, want to get married/don’t want to get married, don't mention it on the first few dates. There is a time to talk about these things and that is NOT when you are newly dating.
*Never ever criticize his mother unless you want to remain single.
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