You’re sitting on your computer staring at her/his facebook page for the billionth time today wondering why she/he didn’t call you back. You thought the date went swimmingly. No, you thought it went SUPERBLY. You both indulged in a delicious dinner at that posh restaurant you love, followed by some fancy drinks at the new bar that just opened up and topped off the night with some dancing. A fairytale first date right?!!
WRONG!
Whether it has only been just one date or you have been dating for a few months, there are certain things that bring your romantic journey to an abrupt stop. These “Deal Breakers” know no gender or age and most certainly can morph in to every possible situation you can think of. So what are these shockingly horrendous acts that are so unappealing? I urge you to read on, but I must warn you, you might find yourself guilty as charged. But whoever said “Ignorance is bliss” must have been painfully single.
AWFUL TABLE/RESTAURANT MANNERS
You might have been too busy shovelling that delicious chive garlic mash potato in to your mouth to notice the look of disbelief plastered on her/his face but it was definitely there. Table manners are considered to be a sign of civilization and class, what separates us from animals.
Please refrain from:
*Cutting your meat like you are sawing a 2 by 4 piece of wood
*Slurping up your pasta
*Ordering on behalf of your date – Feel free to make a suggestion, but the ultimate decision is up to her/him.
*Diving in to the bread basket and touching every piece of bread in the process
*Answering your phone – Don’t even put it on the table.
*Being short/rude to the Server – It speaks volumes about your character.
SHAMELESS FLIRT/WANDERING EYE
Personally, I find it quite attractive when my date can interact with strangers even flirt a little bit. It shows their humour and that they’re good natured and fun. But there is definitely a not so fine line between being nice and shamelessly flirting. Bottom line, it’s disrespectful.
Please refrain from:
*Asking the Server for her/his number
*Ignoring your date in social environments
*Doing a double take of every hot girl/guy that walks by
*Talking/flirting with a friend while your date stands there silently and not introduced
AGGRESSIVE DRIVER
There is a certain level of trust that is required for being a passenger in someone else’s car. You are basically putting your life in the hands of the driver, so it is horrifying to see him/her cut off another car, make that questionable left turn or stick their head out the window and let loose a long list profanities at the poor lady that is driving a little slow. Basically, if your date is holding on to her seat for dear life, you’re doing it wrong.
Please refrain from:
*Driving too fast
*Any display of road rage
*Making any turns/ decisions that are rushed or questionable.
DIRTY FIGHTER
There comes a time when you and your date come to a disagreement or an argument. Whether it is the first date or the 15th, how that first argument goes can determine a lot about your future with that person.
Please refrain from:
*Raising your voice
*Using any sort of profanities
*Cutting the person of in the middle of their sentence
*Refusing to accept his/her opinion
FLAKE/UNSUPPORTIVE
This is a very broad and gray area but very important for starting a healthy relationship. It is a disappointing feeling when you are counting on someone to be somewhere for you or even just to back you up in an argument and they don’t deliver. If she/he doesn’t respect you enough to back you up, I can guarantee that there will be no “long run”.
Please refrain from:
*Not showing up when you have promised to be there
*Not backing up your date in public
*Berating your date publicly for their opinion
LIER
Whether it is a little white lie about going to the gym earlier, or claiming sick when really she/he went away for the weekend or something much bigger and drastic, lying is a deal breaker. Someone who is willing to lie about the insignificant things will also find it within themselves to lie to save face in more imperative circumstances. Honestly is one of the key pillars of any healthy relationship.
Please refrain from:
*Telling any lies, BIG or small.
CHEATER
Cheating is such a slap in the face to you, your trust, whatever you built thus far in your relationship. When your partner cheats, it includes almost every other deal breaker there is and complexes the problem. She/He should have enough respect for you to frankly let you know that your relationship isn’t what they are looking for and to end things with integrity. The second she/he has cheated there should be no second chances. By giving a cheater a second chance, you're encouraging bad behavior and inviting round after round of infidelity. Just walk away with your dignity intact.
Please refrain from:
*CHEATING
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